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If your child's first birthday to be a big party or a small gathering of immediate family?

My birthday is the first child next month. His father could not be here (Army) and everyone is pushing me to have a big family get together. We are talking about grandmothers, uncles, cousins, all of them. I know they mean well but my son is not only a social baby. He crystals, when some unknown things. Should I give and have a great party or stick to my gut and make a little thing in the house of the immediate family? Ah well if you have any suggestions of topics and so I am not open .........

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